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Merissa



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PostSubject: Honouring your mother   Wed Jan 03, 2007 12:16 pm

Crying or Very sad Hi guys,
I have a really big problem with my mom that has been going on for years and i just needed to discuss it with you. I'm 27yrs and married with children but my mother would come into my home or stay from her home and order how my husband and I should run our household and if we disagree she would get angry, and sometimes even stop talking to us or try to make us feel guilty. It's taking a toll on my marriage because my husband finds it very disrespectful. We are young believers and started attending Divine Destiny last year with our kids and we are trying to go God's way but my mom is really making it hard for me at times because of the things she would do or say about us. She's very negative and its very hard to have a normal healthy conversation with her. I love my mom and I really want to honour her just like God stated but it's difficult. Do you think it's because I'm her only child and also that she hasn't have a male companion for the past 15yrs? I really don't know what her problem is, I even stop discussing anything about my life or family with her because she would tell all her friends my personal business or she would even reapproach me with it if we had an arguement. Now she's telling everyone that I don't tell her my business and that I'm ungreatful. Please share some light on this difficult situatuion for me.bounce

Thanks,
Merissa.
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DamianR



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PostSubject: Well if talking to her won't help try this...........   Tue Feb 27, 2007 4:27 pm

Well Miss lady, you not alone with having a difficult parent nah.
I have one too, and I too have given up on trying to communicate. To me is like they don't hear anything other than themselves, or they jus choose not too. However, spiritually, I have discerned a sort of block over the ears, I guess that is what GOD meant by having ears they do not hear.
There is not real solution to this, other than keep Christ Love. A love that will translate into tolerance. All I will say is keep calm and be stubborn to your mother's stubborness.
When I try to help people, i often offer a creative example of how you can go about doing it. Today will not be different ha ha ha.
Jus hear me out. If she insists on having her way, jus agree verbally but do what you and your husband have agreed to.
SO if she says, "Merissa this is what you'll must do," then you say " ok mummy that is sounds good but this is the way we decided."
Then she might say, " allyuh mad oui," then you say something like,"ok then let mad ppl be."
Now i am not encouraging insolence or disrespect, but you have to get under the skin of a controlling person without trying to get under their skin. I hope You understand.
Just by virtue of your unwillingness to let words upset you and keeping cool, calm and patient, that controlling wicked spirit will become aggitated. So aggitate it out of her. jus keep calm,and maybe give the impression like you will do as she says, but then do the opposite of what she wants or rather the unified decision between you and your husband. Your mother must understand that she needs to let you opperate in a marriage as GOD intended, and she must find a life of her own, let her little girl go.
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Merissa



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PostSubject: Re: Honouring your mother   Wed Feb 28, 2007 11:23 am

flower Thanks DamianR for your advice, I realy needed it. I'll try what you said and I'll let you know how it goes.

Love,I love you
Merissa.
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